Whats the point of recovering from self harm if it makes you feel better?
Self harm is an addiction. For example, I was a heroin addict for quite a few years- when I needed the drug, it made me feel better. Was it good for me? Absolutely not. Did it make me sicker every time I used? Most certainly. Self harm is the same way.
If you don’t want to find recovery- you are not going to. We have to want to change to actually be successful. Yes, self harm may make us feel ‘better’ in the moment.. but it’s only a temporary solution until we feel sad again. Then it’s another cut, another temporary solution to a bigger problem.
There are so many other ways to feel relief from these negative emotions. But like I said, self harm is an addiction. You may not get physical withdrawals but the mental ones can be just as bad. It is really important to get professional help in early recovery. It’s not easy but it’s so worth it- to actually feel better without resorting to negative behaviors.
I am going on 9 years of being ‘cut’ free. I still have very prominent scars; they are most likely never to go away and I have come to terms with that. My legs are covered in them. In 9 years, I have gone swimming only twice (with someone who knew about them) and still after all this time, do not have the confidence to wear shorts.
Self harm is a result of low self-esteem. Once you are able to love yourself, you do not want to hurt yourself intentionally. That’s why I said it’s a temporary solution to a bigger problem. You realize that you are so much better than self harm! Admitting we have a problem is always the first step.